With
Gloria Eswayi Emmanuel
The issue of who should first profess love between a man and woman in order to start a romantic relationship has become a bone of contention within the African context.
To some, whether it's the guy or lady that first profess love, it's a matter of indifference to them. To others, it's a taboo for a lady to first profess love to a guy.
They believe a lady who first profess love to a guy will not be respected in the relationship, and for her to maintain her dignity, whether she first has a crush on a guy, she should remain silent and if need be, die with her feelings unexpressed.
In an 'ideal African society', a guy who is interested in any lady, is expected to profess his love to her through whichever medium he dims fit. The big question here is...going by the opinion of an ideal African society, about this issue, what happens to a lady who's in love with a guy she is not permitted to tell and the guy isn't noticing her on his own?
My take! It's true we Africans are expected to preserve, maintain and promote the 'African culture'.
Evidently, there's no single word known as the
African culture; though, there are various cultures in Africa depending on where we come from, and some of these cultures don't foster the development of Africa and her people.Eg, the killings of twins in cross river state which was abolished by a white lady known as Mary Slessor. It is also pertinent that cultures that don't promote the development of Africa be terminated.
I mean, there's no harm in a lady telling a guy that she loves him through whichever way she feels like expressing her love.
Evidently, women have innate powers that speaks volumes even without saying a word. Its better than sitting and waiting that the guy notice you. You mustn't walk up to him and say hey, I love you! There are different ways to do so, e.g, becoming friends with him, talk always...hope you are not expecting me to give you expo?
Well ladies, move forward by killing every mentality responsible for your set backs!
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